Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence: Mating In

Stop trying to be "one" and instead celebrate being two distinct individuals.

We have two fundamental human needs: the need for belonging (safety/stability) and the need for separateness (novelty/risk). Marriage is often built on the former, which can make it a "cemetery" for the latter. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

The "story" it tells is the universal narrative of the modern couple: two people who seek both security and passion in the same person, only to find that the very things that create intimacy can often stifle eroticism. The Premise: The Great Paradox Stop trying to be "one" and instead celebrate

The book concludes that "erotic intelligence" is the ability to maintain one's own sense of self within a couple. It suggests that to keep passion alive, partners must: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence