In the book author G. Merrill explores how same-sex marriages reshape the dynamic between parents and their adult children. Whether you are navigating wedding planning or adjusting to a new child-in-law, here are practical ways to support your child and foster a healthy relationship during this transition. Supporting Your Child Through the Wedding

: When addressing the couple, follow their lead on titles. If they share a last name, you might use plural titles like Messrs. or Mesdames on formal mail. For wedding invitations , use both names on the same line separated by "and".

: Small gestures like writing supportive messages in cards —such as "Standing proud with the two of you in celebration of your marriage"—can mean a great deal to a couple who may have faced homophobia or marginalization.

A child’s wedding is a significant milestone, and for many LGBTQ+ couples, it is a powerful reclamation of a tradition that has historically excluded them.

: Understand that your child's spouse now plays a central role in your child's life and, by extension, your relationship with them.

: Using age-appropriate books like Donovan’s Big Day can help grandchildren or other young family members understand and celebrate their family's diversity.

: When explaining LGBTQ+ families to younger children, focus on the foundation of love. A simple explanation—that anyone can get married if they love each other—is often the most effective approach.